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Monday, December 21, 2009

One Of Our Favourite Place

The place where we first met.
The place where we first held hands.
The place where we first hug.
The place where we first kissed.
The place where we go after dinner, before sending me home.
The place where we go for picnic.
The place where we had our mini bbq.
The place where we go cycling.
Love it when it is peaceful, with sea breeze blowing towards us.
So relaxing~

Thursday, December 17, 2009

Not Easy

It is not easy to get integrated into a new group of people.

Especially when that group of people is so closed with many years of relationship.

Of coz I cant blame anyone but sumtimes I just feel sad abt it.

It really feels nice when people treat u as part of them. Ask u to join them for lunch everyday. Ask u to go out shop every once in a while. Involve u in their activities and outings.

Basically u feel u haf lots of frens. U dun feel lonely.

That was how I felt before I left my previous work place.

In my new workplace, I’m seated far away from my team, therefore lowering the chances of interaction with them.

I do not really know what is happening over that side. I do not wanna appear to be so free and walk around and kpo around. Thus the only interaction time is lunch.

Sumtimes I feel extra, especially when I am not able to participate in their conversation or activities. Especially when I dun understand what they were talking abt, the things tat happened in the past. The connection of past happenings to current issues.

It is not easy.

I guess all these need time.

I hope not too long.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

The Not So Little Black Dot

I removed the not so little black dot abt 1.5 mths ago. But the whole healing process was not as smooth as it should be.

1. The white dissolvable thread was BROKEN and the wound opened up. Went back to the doc the day after the surgery and restitch a blue ugly thread outside the skin.

2. Abt a week later, the wound looked like infected with yellow thingy. Doc not in SG and thus went to see the associated doc instead. The associate doc felt that it was healing well and the yellowish thing is not infection. It's just accumulation of the cream I applied. He took out the stitch.

3. Went back to Doc for review after he was back in SG and he removed the white stitch for me.

4. The holes of the stitch head looked infected. Went back to Doc to check and true enuff, infection. Injection was done.

5. 1 month after the surgery, went back for review. No infection already but the wound is still very red. Doc helped to use laser on the wound, supposed to lighten the colour.

6. 2 wks later, today, the wound is still as red. Morever, there seems to be a lump. It is as big as the original not so little black dot, and it is hard. Worried abt it and went back for chk up.

The moment I stepped into the clinic, doc was with the nurses at the counter. He looked at my wound and said, wah lao y like tat! haha I think he is pretty frustrated with all the nonsense tat happened on the wound area. He then said u very ke lian very xin ku hor. I said no la I jsut feel very ma fan. Then all of the sudden, he pat my head and say ke lian! I was stunned! er... I noe tat the whole clinic felt that I'm a young little ger and tot tat I'm still schooling and stuff, but hello I'm not tat young leh.. or did the doc feel like I'm his daughter at tat moment? haha.

Anyway he helped to laser again and injected some med. This will help to flatten the lump and lighten the colour. He told me tat this is the first time tat such surgery has such result, usually the healing is quite fast and good. Well, guess I broke his record! He said tat for normal cases if there is any redness after the surgery, he would charge the patient for the laser shots. But he said tat coz I am very nice (maybe is coz i nv complain in spite of all these happenings) he helped me with all these for free, without extra charge. And I will haf to go back 2 wks later for the 2nd laser and injection session. Doc said that he felt bad abt this whole thing. But actually I do not think it is his fault. As many ppl heal much faster than me. And b4 the surgery I already signed a form saying tat there will be chances of having scar after the surgery. But doc actually did his best and helped all he can without charging me 1 more cent.

Well, I think I am the onli ma fan patient he has. haha. But I guess in a way, I didnt lugi at all coz I made every cent I spent worth it with so many follow up action.. well I rather not haf all these.. haha

Saturday, December 12, 2009

Princess and The Frog

Watched this cartoon movie this afternoon and found it quite a funny and nice show. There are so many parts tat makes me and my colleague laughed. Be it lame or stupid or jsut funny, we had quite a relaxed and happy 98minutes.

It is a typical happily ever after fairytale. Yet it actually brought across some message to the audiences.

In life, we do not have to fulfil all our wants. What is impt is our need. In the show, princess wants to haf a restaurant of her own as that was her dad (who had passed away) and her dream. However, she does not need tat. What she needs is love.

Same goes to me. I want to haf a wedding tat I like. I want to take pre wedding photo shoots with beautiful backgrd. I want to haf surprises for all my guests at my wedding. I want to haf a memorable wedding. But do I need all these? Maybe not.. What I need is love. What I need is to be with my other half. What I need is we are happy together and haf a happy future.

And so I will try to keep tat in mind!

Also, a simple sentence might bring across the message A with you needing to do way A. But often we do not see that there is actually another way B, which can also result in the same message A. So if you tried way A and it fails, dun give up as there is still plan B!

In the movie, the frog can only turn back into the prince if he kiss the princess. However, due to some reasons, he failed to do so. But he din think of another princess. He didnt think of another way. When he married the other female frog, and kissed, both of them turned back into human! Tat is because after the lady frog is married to the male frog who is supposed to be a prince, the lady frog will be a princess and so when the male frog kissed his wife, he is also kissing a princess and thus ta da~

So sumtimes if we are not able to achieve what we tot we should, do not give up. Think of the same thing from another point of view and u may see another answer!

Thursday, December 03, 2009

We Want It Our Way

It's our marriage, our wedding.

Once a lifetime.

And we want it our way.

I do not wan to regret years down the road.

I wan to haf a wedding according to how we, the couple, want it to be.

From wedding preparation, to pre-wedding photo taking, to solemisation, to reception, to honeymoon.

The chinese customary, well since we are the newer generation, we can leave it to you. But other than tat, we jsut hope to haf a wedding of OUR OWN and not anyone else.

I wan to haf a happy and blissful wedding.

In our preferred way.

Sunday, November 29, 2009

26th Birthday

Celebrated my 26th birthday with my dearest today.

Went to Punggol to chk out our future hse site.. nuthing is done still!!! haiz.. y take so long sia! Took some photos before go for lunch at Jalan Kayu Jerry's BBQ and Grill. The food is sooo yummy~ :)

And then lubby drove to Mt Faber and gave me a surprise mini bday cake! It's Cinnamoroll one!! Tat time we walked past polar and we saw and so he got it for me for a mini celebration. :) really love the cake so much! so cute!!!

Then we proceed to Vivo for movie, Twlight -- New Moon. It's our first time watching a movie at the Gold Class. NICE!!!! We went in early and ordered some drinks, sat down and chatted and slacked before going into the theater. The sofa in the theater is soooooooooo comfy!!! U can adjust the back of the sofa etc and even has a blanket! My favourite~ hehe.. And the show is nice coz i really like the story anyway.. looking forward to part 3 and 4~ shall read the story books first.. hehe

AFter the movie we walked ard before heading to our dinner place at Mt Emily, Hang Out. HEard so much abt Wild Rocket and so lubby decided to bring me there to try their food. Their menu changes frequently and thus what someone tried some mths back might not be available now. Anyway the food is not bad.. the embience is nice.. And we love the strawberry cheesecake.. super super yummy! The cheese is very thick, and it blends very well with the sour strawberry and the icecream, together with the biscuit!

As it was still quite early, we went to ECP for a walk. Blow Blow wind.. hehe..

I had a very very happy 26th birthday. Thanks Lubby for the camera and the bling bling and the cake and everything u planned! I enjoyed myself to the maximum and this is my happiest birthday!!!

Photos
here.
The Long Awaited Surprise

'Dear, you want ur bday present now?' Lubby asked me when we were in his room yesterday.

'No, I wan it tml on my bday'

'U sure? u dun wan it now?'

'yah tml..'

And then he was looking disappointed and so I told him, 'up to u, if u wan give me now then now lo'

And after some 'persuation' i finally say ok and wan my bday present and so he took out a present.

I guessed it is the cam tat i wanna get.. and he said, 'cam box so small meh?'

So i tot, sumthing else? hmmmm

And after i opened and see, it is the cam! haha.. i sort of guessed tat because the day before I told him dat maybe i dun wan the black one coz is so not me, and he was like 'huh!' hahaha dat i noe sumthing is fishy...

anyway i took out the cam and start to test taking photo and den del off some of the ugly photos and suddenly, i haf a feeling tat maybe he has taken some photo yst to test test so i scroll to see and.... i saw a photo of my bling bling and the words 'will you marry me?' and den i saw the fine print 'pls say yes'.. hahahaha.. so cute!

Lubby then asked, so wats ur ans.. and den i say where is the real bling bling!

He took out a box of artificial roses with a boy bear and a ger bear and the bears were holding the bling bling. He kneel down and asked the question again.

I couldnt find any reason to reject him and so of coz i said yes. :)

I have nv tot of such an idea.. and it seems like it was not the original idea too..but after i mentioned tat i wanna get the cam, it gave him an idea. Coz he knew tat with my personality i will sure try to take photo with the cam. And sumhow i seem to feel tat there is more photos inside and so i scrolled to see.

Looks like we really can feel wat the other party is doing and thinking most of the time!

And now, I am yours, and you are mine! :D

I am totally in love with my bling bling!!! So pretty~~!~

Photos to be seen here.

Thursday, November 26, 2009

The Proposal

Just like how it was like in the movie The Proposal, the gf proposed to the bf!

Months back when Lubby told me abt the Tissot watch he likes, I had this plan already.

Who says that ONLY guy can propose to ger? I wan us to be a special couple, I wan to be a special gf and I wan him to be a special bf.

If a guy can propose to his gf, y cant a ger propose to her bf?

So I went ard asking ppl where to get Tissot watch at a cheaper price. Seems like no1 really haf any definite answer. I went ard asking few shops on the price and even when I was in China, I went to check out all the outlets too!

However, the watch my lubby likes is not tat common. Many outlet does not carry that model and thus I was still trying to find until last Sunday.

I was at TM and checked and found the watch at a very resonable price. And without hesitating much, I bought it.

But I was really worried that my lubby will noe because I kept asking him abt the watch, the model, the price etc coz I was really worried tat I might get the wrong model! And the watch is not tat cheap!!!

My initial plan is to wait for him to propose to me, then I will propose to him with the watch. But after I bought the watch, I couldn't wait to pass it to him since he likes the watch so much! And thus I decided to bring forward my plan and propose to him before he does so.

Sun night I started to do a powerpt slide of all our photos and a poem written by myself. And then plan when and where to show him the powerpt and propose.

And as I can't wait to give him the watch, I gotta find a date tat is near and meaningful. And since todae is thanks giving day, I would use the poem to thank him for everything he has done for me and propose to him.

After dinner at Ikea, I started to feel very nervous. I felt like I'm going for some interview or exam. And then as he gotta go home to collect sumthing he bought online, I had no choice but asked if he could go up my hse to chk my computer coz sumthing is not right. And he asked wat is wrong with the comp. And I said I dunno how to describe I gotta show him. He then said, sumthing is fishy! And then I was so worried and 'scolded' him which made him more sure tat sumthing is realy fishy.

When we reached home, I gave excuse that I need to change and I took a long time coz I gotta open the powerpt slide, get ready the watch and etc.

And the moment he click on the screen and the powerpt slides started, both of us couldn't stop crying. haha.

And then when the powerpt slide showed 'will you marry me' I took out the watch and put in frt of him.

And of coz he said yes. hehe.

I'm happy that he is surprised and touched and happy because I wan him to be pampered just like how he pamper me. No1 should be deprieved from tat! And as long as I can, I will gif him surprises and pamper him and of coz shower him with all my love and care.

I Love You My dear.

Hope that todae will be one of the best and most memorable moment of your life! :)

Pls click here for pictures!

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

What Matters Most In Life

Is HAPPINESS.

Are you happy now? If yes, congrats. If no, why? Can u find a solution to it? Can u try to change the situation and make urself happier?

From FB, MSN, chit chat sessions, I can see that my ex colleagues from NE are not happy. Well, we all noe tat we have not been happy since many mths back. But the situation has been getting worse for the past few mths, and ever since I left, it seems like it is getting even worse.

We all noe the reason. But we can't change the start of the problem. Because it has been fixed and we are not BIG enuff to change anything anyway.

So why did I leave my previous workplace? Well, wat I said in my interview is true. I wan a change in working environment. I love children and so I wanna do sumthing for them. I wanna contribute to another group of ppl in the society.

But on top of all these, it is because I can't stand the previous place.

I used to LOVE my previous job. And I really mean LOVE. I dun need to drag myself to work. I am happy at work. Even though I gotta work over the wkends, I was still happy and didn't really complain. Until the change.

Then I felt that I dragged myself to work everyday. I felt tat I am being controlled by those ppl up there. I felt tat I'm jsut a chess used by them. With the changes, I felt that I have to be a superwoman to be able to carry out those duties. And I dun feel any sense of belonging anymore.

When u can't feel the sense of belonging to a place, how can u actually work hard and make urself believe that u are happy in tat place? Since they dun appreciate wat we did, or I did, how do i bring myself to work for them?

Maybe we are just unlucky to be a stepping stone, and not being able to voice out our unhappiness etc.

And thus, since I can't change the problem or the situation, I move on and bring myself out of the problem.

I'm in my new job for the 4th week. Heard from my colleagues that they are 'overloaded' with work and everyone seem to work til quite late. But well, which job is so relax nowadays? Even cleaner aunties also gotta do so much more work than last time. But at least I am happy here. At least the ppl here are frenly. At least I feel a sense of belonging here. At least I have my own work station.

Though there is a pay cut, though I wun be able to get my full 13th mth bonus, though my march bonus will not be full amt too, but, can money buy me happiness.

Yes, maybe when I haf the bonus, I can get myself another LV bag like last year. Maybe I can save more for my hse and wedding. But will I be happy everyday in tat kinda working environment?

We work for at least 8 hrs daily. If we work at a place which we dun like, we will be upset for 1/3 of a day everyday! Is tat worth all the bonuses and etc? Well if you can tahan all the unhappiness and unfairness in order to get the $, then u can continue. But I cant. And thus Im out to sumwhere else.

Happiness is in our hands. We need to look for it. We need to fight for it. We need to make it happen.

So if u are unhappy now, think abt it, why is it so? is there anything u can do? And most importantly, do u want to be happy?
3rd Birthday Present

As I told Lok Hang the other time, I would want to get a black bag as my bday present this year.

Went searching for one, but couldn't find any nice and 'see-up-eye' one..

Was at Charles and Keith just now and saw this bag which I like! Tried on the black one but looked very 'flashy' coz of the material and reflective nature. And the purple looks nice! So I decided to get the purple one as it is quite dark and should be quite easy to match clothes, I hope.

So there I got my 3rd bday present of the year!

Thanks Lok Hang and Huixian! :)

Thursday, November 19, 2009

New Toy At Work

Got a new toy to accompany me at work lo~~~ I love his tail.. super cute!
Thanks Lubby!


Monday, November 16, 2009

I Can't Stop Smiling

After work, lubby came to fetch me from office and den came home to pick my parents and proceed to the airport coz my grandpa came sg today.

Lubby and I had popeye for dinner as he has been wanting to try and didn't get a chance to do so. And as usual, he ordered SOOOOO MUCHHHHH food tat we couldn't finish. Well, decided that next time I would be the one ordering to avoid wastage of food!

After dinner went to the toilet to wash my hands. When I came out from the toilet, a man with a little girl approached me. 'Excuse me miss, can you pls help to bring my daughter to the toilet?' I was quite shocked and didn't respond in time. He then continued to say 'Coz she is a ger so I cant bring her in.' (And then I remembered how my dad brought me to the GENTS when I was a little ger and urinated at the urinal.. omg...) And so I said ok no prob. Then he told his daughter that this jie jie will bring her into the toilet and he will wait outside for her. And then she whispered sumthing to him and he told me 'can u pls pass her some tissue paper after she has finished?' I was like oh no prob! And then we went in and she was holding her soft toy! So I asked the man, 'er... do u wanna hold her toy first?' hahaha.. I worry that her toy will drop into the toilet bowl la!

And then I brought her in. Wanted to hold her hands but she was so shy tat she refused to let me hold. Throughout the walk to the toilet, her body was super straight and she didnt talk, didnt look at me. And when we were in the cubicle, she stood there and looked at the toilet bowl while I locked the door. haha. Then I helped her to clean the seat. She was just a 2+ or 3 year old small ger and I was worried that she cant 'climb' onto the seat.. but she did it so ok la.. haha..

Then brought her to wash her hands.. wah heng she very light.. I still rem how heavy Ryan was when I carried him to wash his hands.. I was like Ryan are u done... and trying to tahan.. haha..

And then there we went out of the toilet, she was still walking or rather marching.. haha.. and the moment she saw her daddy out there, she hopped over! OMG she is sooooooo cute!!! Her daddy asked her if she thank me but she kept quiet.. so I told him is ok no problem. She is so shy~ but SOOOOOOOOO cute la~!!

And I keep thinking of her...though is just a very simple act, but I felt happy being able to help tat daddy and tat ger ger. And I wished that I have a daughter NOW!!! For the dunno how many times in this wk! :P

Sunday, November 15, 2009

A Contented Sunday

In the morning, painted my finger nails with gold base and gold glitter at the tip. :) Pretty~ Bling bling! Not bad right? I think I can do quite a gd job, so dun need to go manicure~ :P

Went to Tampines to collect my reserved book from the library -- The Time Traveller's Wife. A book which I have reserved for so long ago! And I didn't haf the time or chance to collect it til todae. Then went shopping at Tampines. Bought two dresses from one of my fav shop at CS, Mila. Fell in love with the blue dress the moment I saw it. It's super cute! Got it since it looks quite nice on me. :) Bought another grey dress as there is 20% discount now for members.
Got myself a piglet water bottle so that I can bring a small bottle of water out for visits. At first couldn't find any piglet one, but lots of pooh ones. Then I went off to find at other shops and before going off I somehow due to no reasons decided to go back to look at the bottles again and ta da! I found my piglet!!!

My aunt just went to Switzerland (oman.. I wanna go too!) for work purpose and bought back 3 bars of chocolate. One bar is super long... and she bought more for us because I love chocolate! wahahhaa.. anyway opened a small bar and OHHHHHH MYYYYYYYYYYYYY GODDDDDDDDDDDDD~ It's heavenly! I felt as if I flew into the sky right after I ate the chocolate! Yum~~~~

Saturday, November 14, 2009

The Key Word To Happy

For the past few days, I have been quite a happy girl. Because of the things or food tat evolves ard me. Last wkend had very good meals from Ivins, ding tai fung and not forgetting the very very nice chocolate cake from Lana~

And then, thursday night went to Jack's place. And tat now Lubby's parents are JP members, I can forsee tat we will frequent that place even more often! :) The dessert was YUMMY!!! I had the tropical mango tart.. I love the crust of the tart, not too buttery and not too soft... just nice! and it is not very sweet, and goes very well with the mango.. drool!!!
Lubby had a marble cheese cake in a chocolate cup.. the marble cheese cake was very rich and nice! And it is so cute with the chocolate cup but we didnt finish the cup coz it will be too heaty to haf all in our tummy~
And of coz this evening's nasi padang from Rendezvous Restaurant. I like their fish.. not fishy, not dry and when u eat with the chilli... it's just nice! and their chendol.. the coconut is... nice! it taste like the coconut sweet tat my grandma loves to eat~ haha.

Was at Bishan J8 while waiting for lubby. Shopped ard and saw this super pretty shop. Mini Princess! OMG! The first time I found this shop was at Changi Airport and I fell in love with the shop immediately. Todae I went in and see see look look, omg I felt like buying EVERYTHING! It's soooooooooo pretty and sweet! The shop is pink in colour. They haf many differnt types of things, from pong pong skirt to stationery to hair accessories to decorations etc. How I wish I have a daughter right now so tat I can doll her up! And I wouldn't mind working there, even if Im just a salesger.. coz I will be super happy everyday in tat sweet pink shop! Anyway I got myself a small pencil case so tat I can carry it out when I do visiting to centres! :)
Just all these small little things are enuff to make me happy for one whole day! Even now when I think of mini princess, I will smile! :P

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Dinner @ Mad Jack

Lubby finished his 2nd paper at 6pm todae and came to pick me from work. However, I stayed back because we had to do a chit chat session with an operator and she could onli make it after work. Finished the session at 745 and lubby waited for an hr! So sorry my dear.. thanks for waiting! :)

Went to Simpang Bedok Mad Jack for dinner. I ordered chicken leg.. and it's yummy... The sauce is nice with the carrot and onion, sweet and salty. But I still like Ikea's chicken leg more.. hehe..
Lubby had his burger which is 'tallest burger in town' or sumthing like tat. It is as tall as a can of coke! He couldnt bite it just like tat and had to eat it layer by layer.. haha.
After which we went to shop n save and bought some snacks. And then I saw the Magnum mini! And without even checking the price I just grabbed it. It is quite ex sia! 6 minis for $9.90!!! But nvm happy can liao.. shall slowly enjoy after dinner tml~ :P

Monday, November 09, 2009

I LOVE Children

That's my conclusion after my visit to centres today.

Was at a centre with my colleague for investigation purpose. We had to tok to the children in a room.

And the kids are just sooooo cute! They love to tok and tok and tok... and they are so excited to express themselves~! And they are such a happy bunch tat they always luff and smile after they talked abt sumthing.

Then after chatting with them for a while, one of the little ger suddenly sat on my lap. haha~ she is so cute.. she didn't ask me or wat but just sat on my lap.

Well of coz I didnt reject her and just continued to carry her lo.. :)

Then she went off to wash her hands and another ger came over and sat on my lap!

When the first girl came back she asked her fren to go off but her fren refused to. And so the first girl went to play with my bag. She carried my bag and said tat her bag is almost the same kind and even wanted to open my bag! haha.

Then we haf to bid gdbye and when we went downstairs to the 1st storey, the 2nd girl asked me to hold her hand and walked down the stairs.

I'm so happy and touched with all these little actions that the girls did.

They are just sooooo cute and sweet la!

Although I may not be able to face and play with the children everyday, but I'm happy that my job invovles children and I am able to talk to them, visit them and see them once in a while! :) Contented already~

Sunday, November 08, 2009

Bday Present

Hehe, I received my 2nd bday present of the year~

First bday present is my omnia II from lubby.

Second bday present is a bag from Lubby's parents. His mum got the bag for herself and felt that it is nice and thus got one for me as my bday is coming. :)

It will be ideal to be used as a lunch bag. BUT apparently I do not need any lunch bag as we can only go da bao from the canteen and eat as we only haf 1 hr lunch time and it is not enuff to get down the mountain and go sumwhere else to eat.

But I can still use it when I do not need to bring too many things. :)

Hm... what else do I want for my bday?

1. Leather wallet
2. Watch (formal wear... those with metal strap)
3. Bling Bling earring.. (Real bling bling!!!!)
4. Black handbag tat is not too big and not too small.. I do not haf a black one!
5. $$$$$ coz im saving hard now...

Tat's all I can think of at this moment though..

Saturday, November 07, 2009

No Infection?

Tat is wat the other clinic told me today.

Went to the associate clinic for chking of wound as my doc is out of town. The doc looked at my wound and said it looks ok dun worry. And he said tat we will need to take out the stitch and see how after dat.

So went to take out the stitch and the nurse said tat it is ok dun look like infection. The yellowish thing are just the accumulated cream tat I keep applying layer after layer, not allowing it to have time to dry. And they dun see the need to take antibiotic. They even asked me to wash my wound with soap and water. They said that if there is infection, the lip will be swollen. And the redness on my wound area should disappear after 1-2 days. The doc take a look at my wound after washing and said it is ok and looks fine.

The two clinics said different things. Well of coz I will prefer to trust my own clinic but as it is the nurses who chked my wound, I have some doubt too la... But it seems like they take photo of my wound and send it to my doc who is overseas.

So is there infection or is there not? Yellowish thingy there is pus or accumulated cream?

Well to play safe, I just continue to take my antibiotic.

And I was looking at my wound and realised that under the yellowish thingy are gaps and holes. But the associate clinic told me tat there seems to be no holes...

OMG I NEED MY DOC! But he will onli be back on Thursday!!!! :( Even if I have any problem and approched my clinic now, only the nurses can take a look... and if they ask me go to the associate doc, he will say no prob and it is healing.

I really really hope it is no prob and just healing..

OMG.. I'm damn worried again...

Friday, November 06, 2009

Infection

That's the current situation of my wound.

I didnt know those were pus.. because I hardly cut myself or injuired myself and see pus or infection.

I tot the itchiness is the healing of wound.

How come take one course of antibiotic and apply the anti-bacterial cream liao still can get infection?

U ask me I ask who.

How come normal ppl get a normal deep cut and den without applying any cream or take any med, the wound can still heal faster than me?

Because urs is just a cut.. mine is a surgery!

IF you all can ask so much, why didn't u all help me in the first place? Why tat when I show u all my wound, you all didn't say anything abt it TILL the nurse said it was infection just now?

So the wound got infected because I did the surgery on the 1st appt with the doc? When everyone else also just went for first appt, doc explained the situation and did it straight away? So wat if I didn't do it on the first appt? I go home wait 3 days and den go back to doc and say ok I will do it? Will that help?

Or perhaps it was my fault tat the doc was not free on Fri which was a BETTER date for surgery as on tong sheng. And thus did it on Thursday.

I'm already so worried abt the infection and being the 5% who get scars from this, and yet u all just ask me this and ask me tat, say me this and say me tat... I dun need all these! I need some words of encouragement and consolation...

Thursday, November 05, 2009

Training for my legs

I'm still trying to get used to the journey to office and back home everyday.

Well, it's not as bad as I thought. Maybe I'm starting to get used to it already.

Basically, in the morning, the frequency of MRT seems to be quite fast and thus I'm able to reach Novena station fast! And then when I walk to the bus stop, I usually do not haf to wait too long for the bus to arrive. (let's hope it will stay this way!)

And I can reach office in 1 hr's time!

Similarly, during knock off time, the frequency of bus and MRT are fast and thus I can reach home fast too.

But one thing I still trying to tahan is tat usually I do not haf a chance to sit down... And tat makes my legs tired esp when I'm wearing heels!!!!

Just like now, my tighs are aching!!!!

Monday, November 02, 2009

First Day At The New Workplace

Had the very long journey there and then had induction in the morning.

Afternoon got to my dept and settled some IT and admin stuff.

Got to noe my colleagues but I cant rem their names liao.. haha... too many la~

My dept is full of young ladies.. with onli 5 men...

And just gotta noe that they just re-org and thus my dept is so called 'new'.. how come I always go to new dept/team? When I joined my previous company, my team was also new~! haha~

Anyway my colleagues seem to be quite frenly and fun... but then I have yet to interact with them.. summore my work station is so far away from theirs (coz their side no space liao...)

Tml will be following my colleague to one of the child care centre to see see look look~ :)

I still drag the travelling journey.. 1.5 hr to there... 1.5 hr back home.. by the time I reached home is already 8pm, bathed and had dinner 9pm, washed dishes and did some of my packing and washed up, 10pm... no life... how to exercise when I haf to wake up at 6am every morning and reached home only at 8pm? :(

Anyway I really hope that I will like this job and so that will be the motivation for me to travel so far~ (though I wished that I can stay at lubby place coz got direct bus!!! And he can even send me to work everyday! so near his hse!!! but my parents will kill me....haha)

Sunday, November 01, 2009

New place, New People

After resting and nuaing for almost a mth, it's time to start work again.

This time round, it's a new place, with a new job scope, with new people tat I will have to work with.

Frankly speaking, I'm quite worried.

I'm worried of everything to do with the new job. Whether it is the new job scope, or the new environement, the new policies, the new rules (seen or unseen) and the new people, etc.

There will be a half day induction programme in the morning tml. I really hope tat thru the induction prog, I will be able to noe more people fr the new place, so tat I wun feel so left out and lonely and worried.

I hope tat the half day induction will at least bring me closer to my new colleagues and there will be nice colleagues who will actually ask me go lunch with them. I still rem my first day in my previous workplace. I met my boss, spoke to him till lunch time and then he told me tat he needed to haf lunch with his fren (who is another boss of another dept) and left me all alone. My team mate or who-so-ever all ignored me and I was all alone on my first day of lunch.

If this happens tml, I dunno wat to do because my new workplace is up on a 'mountain' and I really dunno where to go for lunch. *Cross fingers*

I'm also worried abt my new job scope. It's sumthing which I have not done before, and I have no idea what I will need to learn.

I'm also nervous abt the new environment. Every workplace or dept will sure haf its own seen, unseen, spoken and unspoken policies and rules. I just hope that I can get used to them quickly.

Though this is not my first job, but yet this is the first time I'm changing a job. Let's hope everything will be ok. :)

Friday, October 30, 2009

Blue Blue Monster

Woke up this morning and washed up my wound. And realised that there was a hole at one end of the stitch.. the hole is not v deep, just a shallow one.. but it makes me worry.. did the stitch break causing the hole?

Called up the clinic and the nurse asked me to go down and let doc check again since it's very hard to conclude anything on the line.
Went down in the afternoon and apparently the stitch broke and the wound opened up! OMG! I was like huh! wat happen? wat did I do? Nurse said that because it's near to the mouth and thus movements might pull the stitch and broke it.

Doc said that we could jsut leave it like tat, but then, better stitch again la.

OMG.. I had to go thru the pain of the injection again!

First the doc pulled out the stitch from my wound JUST LIKE TAT. I felt as if my skin is coming out!

Then he told me tat yst he wanted to stitch the blue stitch for me which is stronger than the dissolvable one he used but coz they felt that the surgery was beautifully done and thus didn't do so. However it seems like my wound is not coorperative enough ba.. haha. Anyway he started by injecting again and again my tear rolled down automatically though I've tried very hard to control. It seemed like the pain is so sharp tat I can't seem to be able to do anything. And funny enuff, only my right eye dropped a tear! then comes the stitching part.. think the med have yet to take effect and thus I could feel a bit pain during the stitch.. and tada, I have a blue stitch on my wound now!

When it was done, the doc left before they took away the thing tat put on my eyes and I didnt get to say thank you to him AGAIN! But heng ar! He came back to get sumthing and I quickly said thank you doctor before he left again. And his reply was 'welcome! Thank you for coming!'haha

I've been trying super hard not to talk too much and not to luff.. but knowing tat I'm not supposed to luff, sumhow I just wanna luff more at even very stupid and lame things. Luffing at myself for not being able to do things tat are jsut so simple, like sucking fr a straw! But I could feel a bit pain when I luff or talk too fast and thus I have to control control!!!
And thank you my lubby for getting me birdnest and he heard that it was gd for skin! :)

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Goodbye My Fren
I bid goodbye to a fren who has been with me for 20+ years.
When I was in Beijing, we were at this place to listen to some feng shui thingy. After listening, the feng shui master tok to me and my fren. And he asked me to remove my mole because it is big and it is not doing me any good. So I told him tat when I was a little girl, my mum brought me to those facial places to remove it (just using some cream) but I fell sick for a long time. And thus the mole just stayed there for many years. The feng shui master replied tat happened when I was young, now I grow up liao is a different case.

Well he does not provide any mole removeral services, so he can't be saying tat just to earn my money rite.. and it doesnt do him any gd to bluff me anyway.. thus I concluded that what he said is true. Moreover he is a very famous feng shui master (but I forgot his name liao..). He was invited to come to SG to SAVE Suntec after it was built and opened but yet no biz.. and thus he suggested to haf the fountain of wealth and now Suntec is totally different fr the start~!

I talked to my mum abt it and she is ok with it. She told me tat last year when we were in TW, we were at this feng shui related place too and the guy calculated that I will haf 血光之灾 this year and must be careful. So my mum felt that doing the mole removeral surgery is another way of letting it happen which is gd too la.

Thus I asked my frens Jo and Cyn who had done mole removeral recently for recommendation. Called the aesthetic clinic this morning and made appt. And they asked me to go down today as the next 2 days are full already. And since I'm someone who is impatient and once I set my mind on doing sumthing, I cant wait to do it! And there I was, at the clinic at International Building with my mum in the afternoon.

Dr Ng is a gentle man whose complexion is damn gd and fair la.. well of coz he must look gd if not no1 will believe and trust him right? He said tat my mole is quite big and explained that the risks invovled. There might be scarring.. but most of the cases would not haf.. and since my mole is on the area between my upper lip and nose, and it is big (0.6cm in diameter) so after stitching the lower skin might be pulled up a bit. Other than tat, there shouldnt be any problem.

Since I have set my mind in getting it done, I went ahead with the 20+ minute surgery at the clinic. It was really scary. I lied on the op bed and then they put sumthing on my eyes so tat I cant open them. Then he cleaned my face and inject! OMG! The injection is DAMN painful!!! my tears AUTO rolled down lor.. :'( But after that I dun feel anything at all. Then I feel things poking me but I dunno wat it is. Then next thing I know is I smelt some Chao Ta smell while Dr Ng use sumthing to poke my mole. And then I felt needle and thread and next thing I know is he is stitching already. Everytime he stitch and pull the needle and thread, I could feel my skin being pulled up! haha.

The nurses told the doc tat it is a beautiful job~ :D happy happy~

When it was done, I was still blur blur and din even noe. Dr Ng went off and I wasnt in time to thank him! Woke up and saw bloody cutton bud next to the op bed. SCARY! And then next I saw my old fren lying on a cotton pad. I requested to bring it home as it has been part of me for 20+ years! I saw her grow up, from a small little dot to a big fat one with diameter of 0.6cm which makes Dr Ng kept saying 'your mole is quite big' before and during surgery. haha.

I cant talk too much or luff or smile coz any movement will cause the wound to move and thus bleed. I cant even eat things that are too hard. And for the time being I will need to say no to my fav seafood! and anything tat is black colour.. But I dun mind small sacrifice for a pretty face and lucky future! :P

Just now my mum told me tat my dad and her will pay for the surgery as they are the one who gif birth to a girl with a mole. So funny. Thank you mummy and daddy! :)

Below are some photos of how my wound look like and how my old fren looks nice. Well sad to say but I seriously feel tat my old fren looks disgusting! :x Pls be prepared for some upsetting photos below. You may wish to skip the pictures. :)

Monday, October 26, 2009

Children Melt My Heart


The things tat children ard did really melts my heart.


Just for example, everytime Ryan will call me and asks me to play with him, anytime, anywhere.


When I was in China last wk, he asked Lubby's mum if she could help to call Auntie Vivian. Auntie explained to him tat I was not in SG but Beijing and he asked where Beijing is. And Auntie explained tat it is far far away.haha.


Another day he called to talk to his grandpa and requested to go to his hse. And then he asked for Uncle Kenny. After talking a little while with Uncle Kenny, he asked, 'Can I speak to Auntie Vivian?' haha~ His intention of speaking to Lubby is to tok to me! wahaha!


Everytime when we bid goodbye, he will always hug and kiss me. His hug is always soooooooo hard and warm. :) Nv fail to melt my heart everytime. :)


And even Little Celest. She let me carry her, let me play with her and after some time, she will automatically come and find me!~ I still remember, just now she was in recreation room in our office and I went out. When I went back into the room and she saw me, she came towards me and find me! Tat really melted my heart! When I was playing foosball, she always came to look for me~ and she will always ask me to carry her when she wanna see some toys etc.. Maybe coz she noes tat I dote on her and I will always carry her. Maybe I have the ' I will buy/do anything for you' face when Im with her. Still can rem the other time when she wanna go walk walk, she actually passed me my bag before bringing me to go and walk and look for her princess! haha..


How not to love children? :P

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Ugly Doll -- OX

We saw the ugly dolls at one of the shops at Raffles City abt 1+ years ago.. We found it super cute and wanted to get it but when we saw the price, we walked off. A shop little one which is the size of a key chain costs more than $20 and a huggable one costs abt $80 or so..

Some time back, we came across these ugly dolls again at Action City. We have been loving the one with a 'X' eye all along but we couldnt find a small size one.

Todae Lubby took half day off to spend time with me before I fly off to China tmr night. And we went to search for our ugly doll.

Finally we found it at Vivo Action City. The bigger size one has soooooo many colours.. blue, green, orange, yellow, pink etc.. but the smaller size one has only one colour left! I was quite sad coz I wanted a pink one but they only haf the bigger size! And I dun want a bigger size coz it's too big to be carried ard in my bag!

Thus we got the blue one and I will bring it to China tmr~!~~
When I see OX I will think of Lubby! thanks Lubby for the gift~ :)
*My mum and my brothers say tat OX is very dirty and my brother actually asked if he is 2nd hand! :( This is the original colour of OX.. all the smaller size ones are of 'dirty' colour la... :( Whether he is dirty colour anot.. i still heart him lots~

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Fun Day

Went to meet Lubby and family at Taka this morning. They wanted to go there as Taka is having storewide sales. Being super frequent shoppers of Taka, and though they have already been there for many times for the past few days coz of the sales, they still wanted to go todae.

As the donut stall at basement was having some sale and we saw some really cute donuts.. we bought a pinky bear for little Ryan~
He was wearing the cute 'I'm tired' tee from us! Too bad I forgot to take photo with him again!!!! :( And he was so cheeky that he kept taking different clothes and said that 'this looks better' etc. haha.

And while we were still shopping at the Nautica, he already told me tat 'later we walk straight to there' and point to the toys section. haha. Anyway saw a bag that is pretty and wanted to get as they haf 10% off, 15% additional off for taka card! And Uncle and Auntie were so nice to actually buy the bag for me! I got the smaller size one while Auntie and Noreen Jie each got the bigger size one. :)
Then once we left Nautica, Ryan pulled, yes really pulled, me to the toy section. He was keeping himself busy with the psp, playstation etc. After some time, we left for another section and I got to entertain him by playing with him (well I enjoyed that la..).. so we were 'running' ard the whole departmental stall.. haha.

After tat, we went to Tampopo for lunch. First time there though I have already heard so much abt their ramen. Tried the Ramen with black pig, some tempura thingy set. The ramen is so QQ~~~~ And the black pig is so yummy!!!! The tempura for prawn is quite big and the asparagus is sooooooooooooo SWEET!

Poor little Ryan was not feeling well by then coz of his sensitive nose which trigger his cough.. hope he is feeling better now. Anyway as he requested to sit in Lubby's car rather than Uncle and Auntie's car, we drove him and Noreen Jie to their new hse as they gotta sign some documents. The cheeky boy chose to sat in front and so we were 'forced' to sit at the back.

Had so much fun with my fav boy though he is sooo cheeky! haha.

Saturday, October 10, 2009

New Accessories

Had been wanting to get a casing for my omnia II but the original leather casing was out of stock when we checked the other time.. and anyway it should be quite expensive also la..

Lubby searched and found a not bad looking casing online and so he bought for me.

Only to receive it and found it to be a little different from what we saw on the online picture.

But it is still pretty coz is pink! Metallic pink!

Then we were at Iluma and he saw a white casing and found it quite nice and thus got it for me too. And so now I haf 2 casing! And I can change it as and when I want to and maybe to match my clothes or bag etc.
And at the same stall, I saw the stickers for ezlink card and so decided to get. Was deciding what to get as there are sooooooo many to choose from and lubby pointed out the Little Miss Piggy which I find it cute also.. so I got tat for myself. And I wanted to get one for him too, though I think he use his ezlink card..er.. maybe.. once a year or not at all.. and yt said that the Mr Wateva suits him.. haha so I got tat for him! Haf yet to stick.. will ask Lubby to help stick~

Friday, October 09, 2009

第一次拔罐

头痛了好几天,今天一早去看中医。

中医师说我身体里有很多寒气,肩膀很硬,便说得拔罐!

我的第一个反应是。会痛吗?

因为看过爸爸的身体全是一个个圆圈,还变得黑青!所以心里有些怕怕~!

但是,还好啦,不会很痛。之后医师帮我按摸,推推。

这三个圈圈会跟着我至少一个星期吧~

Tuesday, October 06, 2009

我的价值

要走了,上头并没有和我‘聊天’,没有想要‘挽留’我的意思。

虽然,并不是说他们说任何东西,我就不会走。

但是,不是应该了解一下员工的心情吗?

听朋友说,他们要离开公司,老板都会和他们聊聊,找出问题的存在。

但是,我的呢?

我想,就这么看来,就知道我的价值有多‘高’了。

对这公司而言,有没有我的存在,都没有任何影响。

需要我做他们要的东西时,就把我说的天那么高,神那么厉害。当我要离开时,就完全不把我放在眼里。

在这里做了两年多,换来的就只有这样的待遇。

心,淡了。

这一再证明了我为什么觉得热忱已经消失了,为什么对这里完全没有归属感。

反正,对他们而言,没有人是无可取代的。

Thursday, October 01, 2009

Our Home

Yes, we haf gotten our preferred unit for our future home at Punggol Residences!

Everyone in frt of our que number sumhow just prefer the units that near to MRT, face the sea, and facing North West.

We on the other hand, prefer the units facing South West.

Though we may not be able to see the sea, which most likely will only last for a year or so, but I'm pretty sure that our hse will be so much cooler. I used to stay at a unit with the afternoon sun at my room. The room was always burning hot every afternoon. Even if we switch on the air con til 18 degree, we still felt as if we were in the oven. It's really that jialat.

Thus, when we choose the units for our future home, we are careful with the direction that it is facing as I do not want to enter an oven every evening. We also did not choose the top floor which might be hot as heat might come in fr the top/

The unit we chose, though will still haf some afternoon sun but it will be much cooler! We wanted to get the South East unit but it is just next to the pavailion where all the weddings, funerals or any other events will be held. Kids will also be playing at that area. So in order not to be too disturbed by the noise from there, we decided not to get that good facing unit.

Anyway it is also good tat no1 fight with us on the units we prefer.

And so there we are, having our preferred unit on the 15th floor. And we are one step closer to our future!

I cant wait for it to be ready!!!

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

我要走了

两年多前,我加入了目前的公司。这是我毕业后的第一份工作。说真的,当时的我并没有特别喜欢或特别向往做projects.因为说真的,我根本不知道这份工作究竟是做什么的。当时的我,还蛮想要做记者的。但是,这projects的job offer比报馆的早,于是就签约,成了目前公司的一份子。

开始工作后,觉得自己的工作很有意义,也觉得自己很喜欢自己的工作。常常和身边的朋友说,我真得很幸运,毕业后第一分工就能找到自己那么喜欢的一份工,太太太幸运了。

但是,渐渐的,我开始觉得我对这份工的热忱似乎渐渐消失。从每天开开心心去做工,变成每天拖着脚步上班去。可说是360度的大转变。为何?我想原因有好几个。但不管原因是什么,我觉得是该走了。

想想,我在这里两年多,学了很多东西,但是我还要继续在这里吗?我是否该去其他的地方看看外面的世界。这两年多来,我曾经问过自己,我是否想要试试看其他的工作呢?如果我继续呆在这里,我会满足吗?我还年轻,不就是应该出去闯闯,学学新的东西,说不定还有很多其他我同样喜欢的工作呢?

对我而言,工作占据了生活的一大部分。我们每天花在工作上的时间,比吃饭、睡觉、出去、陪家人、陪朋友、陪伴侣的都还要多,那么我一定要做一份我喜欢的工作,才能开开心心的过每一天。

但说真的,要找一份自己真的喜欢的工作,说来容易,做起来却是难啊!

从几个月前开始找,到申请,到等电话,到去面试,到再等电话,不容易。就因为申请的工作都是自己有兴趣的,所以就更紧张了。

从第一次面试,到接到电话叫我去第二次,到之后以为没希望却又接到好消息,这一路来,我的内心是多么的害怕、多么的焦虑,然后终于松了一口气。

我目前的公司不需要我们呈交辞职信,只需要上网按个按钮就行了。

今天早上,我按了。

那一刻的心情,是复杂的。

开心是因为将要做另一份我喜欢的工作。

紧张是因为将要面对另一个新环境。

害怕是因为不知道我是否能够适应那一边的生活。

伤心是因为我将要离开了。

两年多,说长不长,说短不短。但是在目前的公司也有很多美好的时光。我真的很高兴能够认识了这么多的同事,更高兴能够交了这么多的好朋友。有很多时候,战场上都是敌人,很少能够交到谈得来的好朋友。也要谢谢‘长辈们’对我的照顾,让我在这两年多里学了不少东西。

一起在pantry吃饼干、一起去吃午餐、一起去逛街、一起在rec room打电动、玩foosball、一起去看戏、一起去旅行、一起去site recee、一起八卦等等的点点滴滴,开心不开心的,我都不会忘记,我都会把它们放在我心中的一个角落,关上门,上个锁,永远都会牢牢地记住。

接下来的路是怎样的,我真的不知道。只希望一切顺顺利利吧。

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Zi Zai Vegetarian

Last Sat was 1st day of the mth (in chinese calendar), after going to HDB hub and site visit at Punggol, Lubby and I brought my parents to have vegetarian food at Tampines area.

Consulted Cass as she is a vegetarian, and she recommend me to read her sis blog abt all the vegetarian food and found this outlet at Tamp area.

Went there to try and I would say that the service is gd and the food is gd too!

We ordered a few dishes and shared.

As read on Cass sis blog, the prata is nice and thus we gave it a try too. And indeed it was very nice! It is cripsy and not oily at all! And we just keep eating and eating.
The dishes we ordered includes the mixed vege.. which I like also since I like to take vege anyway.. haha
Sweet and sour pork.. its nice.. lubby ate a lot.. :x
Hot plate tofu.. the sauce is very nice.. esp to take with rice.. yum yum
and also cai pu fried egg.. but I would prefer more cai pu coz im a cai pu fan.. hehe..
Overall the food is not bad and I would say its worth a try, even if u are not vegetarian. Like Lubby, who is sumone who cant live without meat and dun like vege, he find the food not bad and he was surprisingly not hungry til dinner time!

Add: Blk 801, Tampines Ave 4, #01-281
Sicky Me

Yes I'm sick again...

My fam doc really should give me a VIP card as I visit him like almost every mth, or once every 2 mths or less...

Was already feeling a bit unwell in the morning. Took flu med in office. Then felt a bit warm and tot fever might be coming, so quickly pop 2 panadols.

After work, went to see doc as I know the flu or sore throat wun disappear on their own and I knew for sure they will just worsen.

When the doc see me, he asked, wats wrong this time? I said, sore throat again lor. Then he looked thru my records and said, it's quite frequent huh.. I said, yah. dunno why, I already am taking vit c everyday leh..

Had no choice but to take that super ex and strong antibiotics again.. just 5 days of antibiotics cost me $36. Together with other med, I donated $56 to the clinic.

Lucky I went to see the doc, coz the pain in my throat worsen at night. Just by swallowing saliva, it already hurt like siao.. :(

And throughout the night, I couldnt really slp coz I keep waking up coz of the pain and swollen feeling I have. Moreover, I was having block nose.

This morning, I could hardly talk coz of the pain and the swollen throat. As I had MC from the doc yst, I decided to rest at home and not spread the germs to my colleagues in office also..

This morning, I could feel my

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

中秋节要到了

熊熊买了两只猪仔给我。

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Our Love Nest

So looking foward to it.

We received the letter from HDB on Friday. Our appt to select our units will be on 1st Oct 2009 at 2.15pm. :)

Went down to TPY HDB Hub todae with my parents to take a look at the 3d model. Well we have more or less decided the blks and units we prefer. We will need to come up with a list of the units.. maybe 55 of them since our que number is 55. But of coz we hope we can get those in the top of our list! *pray hard*

Drove down to Punggol site to take a look and feel so excited.. trying to image how it will be when our flats are built and we will be staying from there.. so nice!

I'm sooooo looking forward to having our own place! :)
Samsung Omnia II

Got part of my bday present in advance today.. Samsung Omnia II.

After getting it, tried to use it.. but I can only say tat smart phone is really smart, and it just shows me how stupid I am.

I might need a long time to adapt to this fone.

It's really very very different from the normal fone.

And I have already encountered sooooo many problems.. sianz..

But I still like this fone and I'm sure after some time I will be able to use this fone like a normal fone and being able to know its function at my finger tips!

Anyway thanks Lubby for the advance bday gift! Muacks!

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Happy Photos

Just some random happy photos~

I was in love with this ring. Everytime when we drove pass any bus with this ad, I would see, look, stare.. went to the stall to take a look at the real thing some time back. Not as nice as the pic.. and it's EXPENSIVE. $21k... -_-

The teddy from the flowers Lubby got me. Brought him out the other time. Cute teddy.


Bear and Pig kissing~ haha.. I tot they would have been bored sitting next to each other for so many days already.. so put them in such a position which they can kiss all day all night... wahahaha...

Felt like painting my nails this way, with two colours.. and so I did it. :)

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Guys keeping eyes open

Was on the topic of r/s and guys with my colleagues today.

Is it true that many of the guys out there actually keep their eyes open big big for potential candidates out there? even if they haf gf already, they will see see look look, if there is sumone out there who is more pretty, attractive etc, he may juz dump the current one and go for the new ger?

Of coz I am not saying ALL guys are like tat? But is it tat most guys are like tat?

We have many examples ard us. Guys going after gers that have big boobs, trying their luck with pretty gers, flirting ard with pretty gers... even if they are already attached. Some may even be prepared to break up with the current gf just for some other ger out there.

Of coz guys will not have that thinking or making that move if the ger did not send any approving signals..

After trying luck with ger A, wooing her by all means, no results or she ended up with some other guy, or she already has a bf, the guy will change his target to another ger which he may find her attractive.

Instead of just putting all his effort and time on one particular ger, why not throw a fishing net and see if he can catch more fishes. The guy can try his luck with many gers at the same time, calling different gers every night, going with different gers everyday etc, jsut to try his luck to find the most suitable one.

Is it true that when guys reach a certain age, maybe 30 or 30+, if they are not in a r/s, or in an not so happy r/s, they will start looking out for potential partners. They will jsut try one after another, til they find a ger who can accept them. Therefore we see examples when ger A turn down this guy, this guy will try to date ger B. Or comments like 'i should have wooed her last time'when the guy see the ger is in a r/s.

Again I stressed that Im not saying all guys are like tat, but the life examples ard us is just proving us correct that some or most guys are like tat. And this may affect the single ladies' thinking. Single gers will not like guys to be like tat, if she wans to have a serious r/s. Single gers will worry that she might get cheated or hurt by such guys. And these guys with such behaviours or thinking will just create a longer distance between themselves and the gers. They are not giving the single gers any confidence. Instead they are just taking all the confidence that single gers might have earlier on.

So guys, what are ur opinion? wat are ur thinking?